Well I found out tonight why my cousin had 'gone into hiding'. His wife, Heather, had lung cancer diagnosed in November and she didn't want anyone to know or for it to ruin their Christmas festivities.
So Nigel kept it quiet and Heather died on 21st December and was laid to rest on 31st December. The only ones she wanted in attendance were her husband, daughter and grandchildren.
Nigel did not want sympathy cards nor flowers.
So all I can say is goodbye Heather rest in peace.